Confimation (Article)

I am, as it says in my bio, a pagan.  I’m out and proud, have been for years.  But I have a Catholic family, Irish Catholic.  Now this post is not going to be banging on about my troubles with them or my hardships, quite the opposite.  I have a really good relationship with them.  True, it has taken a lot of work on my part and the part of my parents at times and there was a time when my faith did put distance between us.  But its not so now.  At any rate, my youngest brother is coming up to his Confirmation and I am his godfather.  Confirmation is the time at when a catholic child takes vows for himself.  The individual takes upon him or herself the vows taken at baptism to uphold the key ideas of the Catholic Church.

My case and stand on religion at the time I became my brother’s godfather was interesting, because I did believe in Christ and it was he I worshipped but I simply believed that more gods than him existed.  Since then I worship different gods.  At any rate I was very devout in my religious life, as I still am today even though my worship has changed.  And I still believe very firmly in the idea of religion being a good and healthy grounding for a person and can offer forth good teachings as to how to be a good human.  Many religions not all, and it is also dependant on how the individual carries out his or her worship and how this impacts upon their social and moral perspectives.  I do not believe that aetheists are evil, or that they are any more inclined to do wrong things than any other human.  I simply believe that many religions can teach important roles on what it is to be human, empathy and the like.  Just as the laws of evolution, a study of philosophy or literature can also teach.

Back to my story.  So now I find myself godfather but in no way a Christian.  What should I do as regards my brother’s upcoming confirmation?  Do I still have a role morally to my godson?  Do I still have an obligation to teach him right from wrong and help him with spiritual / moral conscience matters?  That is point one, point two is – by his religion and his own moralities is that obligation best carried out by relinquishing it now that I am not Christian.  So that he can find his Christian path without hinderance or interference?

I did think on this for a while.  And I do truly believe my role is to be there for and counsel him if he so needs it.  Being patroned by a warrior deity it is a requirement for me that I stand at his shoulder, figuratively, as his earthly patron, and assist him stick to his moral path.  It leads me to a slight dilemna.  I will always tend to suggest and advise people to go the path they feel right, but I try not to advise away from the pagan path.  Its discourteous, to say the least, of my own Lords and Ladies.  But in this case to act nobly and of honourable intent I will need to hold my tongue and advise the path he believes in and to stick to it.  In this I have a prior commitment to my brother above those I have since sworn to.

In modern times a godparent is seen, quite often, as a moral sponsor one who can stand over their godchild and aid and assist them in finding their feet in the modern world.  My parents have accepted my religion and its place in my life with no qualms.  They feel that it does not conflict with their moral paths and moving forward from this I can openly and honestly say that I am still a good role-model and can still advise my youngest brother well on matters of moral conscience, without clash of religion.  Be I christian or pagan.




6 Responses

  1. That’s exactly what I think and will endeavour to do 🙂 I don’t feel that only his religion will decide whether he is a good person. So long as I respect and don’t interfere with his religious path why should I not be there? Not just at the ceremony but to guide him forth in life.

    Thanks Hannah, Paul and Anna for your wonderful support.

  2. Hey

    I became a godmother back in September 2007 to my friends daughter. Now although I am a christian I see it that my responsibility to keep my goddaughter on the right path. If she decides that she wants to be Pagan or anything then that is her choice and all I can do is to support her in her choices.

    So if it was the other way round I think that in a way as long as you respect the service that you are attending etc. and their believes as long as you are keeping your godson out of trouble isn’t that okay?

    What do you think?

  3. As being a pagan/wiccan or a person of an earthy faith, myself, we are bound by our religion (belief system) to look after and protect. Bless you and all that come into contact with you.

  4. Your article was extremely well thought out and well written. I genuinely mean this when I say it. I could not have put it better myself but it is exactly the same way I feel from the christian side. I am extremely proud of your attitude in this matter my son.

  5. You said “I can openly and honestly say that I am still a good role-model and can still advise my youngest brother well on matters of moral conscience…”

    But you are proving that this is not true by your very act of being his sponsor (godfathers are at Baptism, not Confirmation). A sponsor is supposed to be someone who is in full communion with the Catholic Church. By your own admission you are not. By agreeing to be his sponsor, you are lying. You are a hypoctite (pretending to be something that you aren’t). Thus, you have proven yourself incapable of sound moral judgment.

    • Read the article, I am a godfather, and was part of the catholic church at that time. But it is important to me to act as a good moral role-model to him and so be there for him for his Confirmation. I am not his sponsor. I am not nor have I lied about anything. Nor have I pretended to be Catholic. Thus you have proven that you didn’t read the post fully, I do take the point and it was something I was eager to avoid doing, acting hypocritically.

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